Jessica Lee Yoga

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Learning to say "No" and it's ok!

Last week was one of those weeks that was full of chaos.  I basically had forgotten to put appointments in the diary or was running late to meetings.  I felt like I was constantly hot-footing it around the place. I showed up to a meeting only to realise that I hadn't confirmed it. It was only whilst I was standing there thinking 'where is he?' and the location he suggested looks closed.  I was sending an email and realised that I hadn't actually sent it through.  I had written it, put the date in the diary but not actually clicked send. We still managed to meet which was a "phew!" moment!  I was lucky that it wasn't an issue in the end and I managed to get everything done.  The weekend rolled in and there was a lot planned.  Saturday I was teaching and then attending a wonderful workshop all afternoon.  On Saturday evening, I felt more tired than I normally do. On Sunday I was meant to have a slow start to the day and then head to a workshop for a few hours in the afternoon with some fellow yoga teachers.During the morning I wasn't feeling the best.  I know I am currently low on B12 and iron.  I do regular blood tests to make sure I don't drop too low. I do my best to take my supplements and eat the best foods for it.  I was feeling a little bit tired, light headed and not 100% myself.  As the day progressed I didn't improve.  I decided to take a nap and try to see if sleeping would help me.  I knew when I woke that I could go but it would be a real push that would impact me in the upcoming week. I weighed up what impact it would have on my upcoming week if I tried to go and exacerbated being tired. I realised it may cause me to cancel work meetings, yoga classes or catching up with friends at a midweek dinner. I messaged the friends leading the workshop to tell them I wasn't going to make it.It was hard to say no and that I wasn't going to make it.  I don't like to let people down and I am committed to being my word if I have made a commitment. I really wanted to be there and having fun with everyone.  I find it can be tough to say no when there's a trend of being super busy and rushing around.  It sometimes feels like a badge of honour.My health and wellbeing are more important to me than it has been in the past.  I would rather take the opportunity to say no and be ok with it. Is there anything that you ought to adjust and perhaps say no to or set stronger boundaries with?